By LOC TRAN
Marrying at a young age may seem appalling to some, but it’s a different story for those of us who must deal with the criticism.
Marriage has nothing to do with age. Whether you’re 18 or 80, marrying someone means coming together as one and devoting your lives to each other.
Critics feel free to provide an endless list of negatives when young couples tie the knot. Common pessimistic thoughts include “they’re too young,” “they’re not financially stable” or “they’re not ready to start a family.”
As a 20-year-old bride myself, here are a few things I would like to tell the doubters.
Getting married doesn’t necessarily mean we’ll start a family right away, but it does prepare us for when we’re ready.
Also, the people who say relationships cause you to lose your independence have no idea what it’s like to be in a committed relationship.
My marriage follows a military tradition of marrying young. When members of the military are stationed in areas around the world, being married allows significant others to live on-post. Single soldiers live in barracks.
Being a military wife comes with its own denigration. We are away from our husband for months, sometimes not sure whether he will return home.
Despite the hardship, our marriages continue to be scrutinized by those who don’t seem to understand the concept.
Being married teaches us how to live for someone just as much as we live for ourselves, but that doesn’t mean losing who we are.
We can still go out with friends. Is there a law prohibiting married people from having fun? Since when did being married mean giving up on who you are independently?
It’s a beautiful feeling knowing that you’ve married the love of your life and are no longer existing only for yourself.
Marriage brings out our inner motivator. We push for each other and are each other’s biggest supporters. We want to see our spouse triumph just as much as we want to personally succeed.
Getting married at a young age means knowing what you want in life and going after it.
Tran sees nothing wrong with marrying young. If you see yourself with that certain person for the rest of your life, why wait?