By MIKI JENNINGS
It has come to my attention that a very large number of my friends have online dating profiles.
After a previous breakup, I dabbled in different ways to meet people, and came across way too many friends on dating websites. It was hard not to judge.
Online-based relationships are not real or valid. I liken them to imitation crabmeat. It has the slightest hint of crab taste, but lacks the richness of the real thing.
When I recently became single again fairly abruptly, I freaked out a bit and acted in ways I normally wouldn’t.
For about two seconds, I thought maybe an online dating site wasn’t a terrible way to go. I realized pretty quickly how mistaken I was.
My friends tell countless stories about failed attempts and awful first dates: crazy people, needy people, overly religious people and constant disappointment.
Sure, there are success stories as well, but those aren’t the majority of experiences people have on OkCupid and Match.com.
Even if you meet a cool person who likes you, a computer or text message can’t determine chemistry (or whether he is actually a middle-aged man living in his mother’s basement).
Part of the appeal of online dating is that it makes meeting people seem so much easier. The pool becomes larger when all of these potential dates get consolidated into one big, virtual space.
A better way to expand that pool is to go out and do things. New surroundings lead to new people — new people you could potentially take an interest in, and possibly connect with.
And with experience comes more perspective, which helps you feel like you don’t have to resort to online dating.
Go find real people to interact with in the real world, not through e-flirts and winky faces. Find a real person to date.
Jennings, a journalism senior, likes to look at cat pictures on the Internet, not potential mates.
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